By: Jamie Reno
Last night, Valerie Harper, the beloved comedic actress from The Mary Tyler Moore Show and Rhoda, poignantly danced her last dance as a contestant on ABC’s Dancing With the Stars. But in her real life, she triumphantly dances on.
Earlier this year, Harper, 74, was diagnosed with leptomeningeal carcinomatosis, a rare type of cancer that was found in a membrane layer around her brain. It’s not brain cancer - that part of the story has been widely misreported - but it is a potentially deadly type of cancer.
Harper was told in March that she had just a few months to live.
Seven months later, she’s still alive and well. Doctors say that, to date, she has beaten the odds.
Being told she was terminal clearly lit a fire under Harper, whose brave and joyous defiance of her own predicted demise begs the question: How often, if ever, should an oncologist give a cancer patient such a time-to-live marker?
When I was diagnosed with stage IV non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, my original oncologist told me I’d “probably live three to five years, at the most.” That was 17 years ago.
Needless to say, I'm not a big fan of survival timelines. But I do understand that many cancer patients want to know. It's a complicated issue.
Dr. William Mitchell, a benevolent oncologist and head of palliative medicine – sometimes called comfort care or supportive care - at the Moores Cancer Center at the University of California San Diego, says there is no written policy at Moores for giving cancer patients a timeline of survival.
But he suggests most oncologists fall somewhere in the middle between giving all of their patients a survival timeline and giving none of them that information.
"As a doctor, I go where the patient wants to go. I will only talk about this if they want to talk about it," he says. "It can be useful information, of course. But it's important for physicians to remember that these are nothing more than educated guesses. Doctors can’t predict the future. By and large, we don’t have the tools in oncology to accurately estimate prognosis, and I don’t know that this is the worst thing in the world.”
So when a doctor does give us a timeline, should we listen, and take it seriously? Yes, of course, Mitchell says.
But should we assume that his or her words are etched in granite and that we have no chance of beating the odds? Absolutely not, he says.
I personally don’t believe doctors should give patients a timeline unless there is some level of certainty and/or the end date is likely very soon. Like days or weeks. And even then, it should ultimately be the patient’s decision to hear this information, or not.
As cancer patients, we can and do defy mortality statistics, which are often dated and do not take into account the uniqueness of each human body or the latest treatments, both traditional and alternative.
I certainly understand and respect that many cancer patients want to have as much information as they can gather about their health and their future. But Valerie Harper isn't the only cancer patient who has defied the odds.
I’ve met literally thousands of people with cancer these past 17 years who’ve lived longer than their doctors said they would.
I am not trying to give anyone false hope. I'm just saying that timelines can be wrong, and that we should all try as best we can to enjoy the remaining time we have in this life, whether it's a month... or 30 years.
What do you think?
Like Jamie, I, too, was diagnosed with Stage IV NHL (in 2004). Nobody ever gave me a specific timeline, but I was made to understand that without proper treatment, the the finish line was very close. After lots of chemo, a splenectomy, more chemo, and an autologous stem cell transplant, I went into remission and have remained so ever since. I still have never been given a timeline, and I like it that way. My goal was to get healthy, and that's where I am. I have no need to know how much time is left. The past 9 years have already been a bonus.
In my own case, I was too young to understand the majority of what was going on, because I was only 8 1/2 Months of Age at dx. on January 22 1968 with Stage 4 High Risk Neuroblastoma. After having my Right Kidney & a 2 1/2 pound tumor (the size of a big man's fist) removed followed with chemotherapy (which consisted of 250 shots directly into the tops of both my hands) to dissolve what remained of the cancer on my Left Kidney and the outer lining of my Stomach, I have since remained cancer free. The prognosis my parents were given about me in 1968 was that I was very likely terminal and that was OVER 45 Years ago!
People need to learn that even if a Doctor sits down and gives a timeline, it is NOT set in stone. We aren't odds, percentages, statistics or our diagnosis - because we are individuals, we can't/don't adhere to what happened to others. I would say, all in all, the doctors can lay it out to the best of their ability, but the patient and/or person being told all the information should take it with a grain of salt not as gospel.
Thank you so much for putting this question out there, Jamie!!
i was diagnosed with uterine cancer in june 2009. surgery and NED til jan 2011 when it had spread to all over my lungs and a periaortic lymph node, no surgery no radiation, only chemo was offered. since then i have been on chemo with no more than a 6 month break between cycles. then surgery & radiation were finally offered once the lung nodules became "inactive" and had shrunk. we started out with over 30 nodules. we took out the lymph node and radiated the surgical site. now on very agressive follow up chemo to get hopefully to NED. i asked about how much time when we found the mets in jan 2011. he told me and my family he was not God but had seen pt who beat the odds and some who died sooner than he thought. that said, he said i had monthsif we did no chemo. that was my husbands question. we also looked it up. according to the latest stats i had about a year once metastasized. we did not know if that factored in treatments or not. it is now almost 2014. lots of prayer warriors and treatments etc later. we will see!
What a deep question. I know they don’t KNOW but know more than we do just as patients. We hear wonderful stories of people defeating the prognosis. I think that I want the facts as known and I will hope to die when I want to. One thing I do know is I do not want a lingering, vegetative state. We put animals down to end their suffering. Humans deserve no less. i know all the problems associated and believe we can overcome them. I have informed my doctor and even written in my will that I am NOT to be kept alive artificially. I want to die with dignity. Loving thoughts to you. Glenda in South Africa
Anytime, except when death is imminent, the prognosis you are given (if you ask) is a MEDIAN number. Half of the people who had your type of cancer died sooner, the other half later. The statistics are old by the time they are given. New medications, like targeted therapies, often show very much promise. Each person's case is unique, it really is. Being compliant, being hopeful, and believing you can fight the fight can affect your outcome immensely. Participating in this forum can help lengthen survival. You are the new set of statistics, you're in uncharted territory, and you may be the ones who rewrite the text books. I pray to God that you will.
Very interesting topic, and well presented Jamie, To me the norm it all depends on the doctor and patient relationship and how much the patient wants to know. Most doctors will respect that boundary. There are always exception to the rule and what the situation is. Example: stage 4 and cancer has spread through major organs, Chemo and treatments stop working, then depending on the patient may want to know the time left.> Most doctors would suggest that to get affairs in order. However, in most first diagnoses and you are not end of types of treatment then hold the information unless the patient request it. As with each patient medication effects us different , same with emotional issues, and dealing with the diagnoses. So the doctors should practice good bed side manners and be aware of each person and procedure accordingly.
This is a tough question and I think it depends highly on the individual and on the type of cancer. My dad had cancer of the esophagus. when he was first diagnosed, they treated it aggressively with radiation and chemo. He went into remission. They told him that if it came back, there would be nothing they could do. He had been in remission for 2 years when it came back. He and his wife kept us posted. I don't remember all the details. But if memory serves (this was 1996), he found out it was back in the spring and he died August 31. They kept us posted throughout the summer (they lived in Georgia, I was in Minnesota, my sister in Phoenix). HIs wife called me in mid August and said if we wanted to see him, we'd better get down there. He'd been in the hospital and did not want to die there, so they sent him home. I was on a plane within 48 hours. My siblings made it a day or two after that. We were there for 2 weeks, and he was still hanging on. He was shutting down, so we knew it was imminent, but I had to leave. I had a toddler at home and I was taking time without pay. I'd been there 2 weeks. He died 2 days after I got home. I was very glad I had time with him. He turned 68 when we were all there and said it was the best birthday he ever had. My sister and his wife were with him when he died. In this case, it was very short term and all his kids and 2 of his siblings were able to get there to visit with him and say goodbye. So, I think it just depends on the situation and on the personality of the patient. Every time a doc has given me time frames for anything, they make it clear they cannot predict it and it is just an estimate. That said: Here's to outliving the timeline!
Good piece, Jamie. I agree that timelines should not be given except for very, very short expectations. When I was diagnosed with my second NHL last year, which affected my central nervous system, one of my docs pointed my wife to a (very small) study that reported average life expectancy after diagnosis was four months and told her there were "no good outcomes" given my circumstances. After several months in hospital for grueling course of chemo, I'm still here...